I’m a sexologist in couples therapy for four years – you need to know this about sex & connection
When we elected to step into a couples process…we never imagined we’d still be in it four years later.
And now I can’t imagine not being in it.
When we first went, we had no idea we were on the brink of securing an apartment – a space that would give us contrast, clarity, and respite from the family home.
We had no idea how much was about to shift – in ourselves, in each other, and in our dynamic.
We went because we were already *good* but good wasn’t good enough when the strain underneath post pandemic was becoming undeniable.
So in my mind, I quickly did the math.
No support = gentle erosion = eventual separation.
Where we split our lives in two and are still mates, still civil, but done.
That option didn’t do it for me.
I wasn’t curious about leaving the most important part of my life up to chance.
The other option was to get support and we secured the best (and continue to).
Every 6–8 weeks, we drop into the process – to the anchor point that tethers us back to ourselves, our bodies and to each other.
And despite the dysregulation and being two high-performers in a neurodivergent family…when we pause we realise, we’ve done better than good.
We’ve kept the sex alive. We still flirt. Still banter. Still argue. We apologise quickly. Still squabble over parenting styles. Express what’s real.
We self-regulate.
We co-regulate.
We dysregulate.
And we commit to completing the cycle and starting a new one over and over and over again.
We didn’t start couples therapy to flatline in an ocean of calm.
We did it to root down and blaze bright…together.
Now, every day in the kitchen at witching hour, we look at each other, gently smile and say our signature phrase:
“We’re doing it.”
Because nothing in your relationship is really about what happens out there.
It’s always about how you show up in the micro-moments that are the relationship.
We’ve lost nothing from doing this work.
But we would have lost everything that actually mattered if we didn’t.
I never wanted to know what that kind of loss feels like.
And I know: you don’t either.
That’s what Power Couple Suite is here for and why I designed it to go beyond the surface.
We work with the erotic, emotional, and energetic undercurrents that shape your dynamic and take place in your bodies.
This isn’t just about “talking better” and communicating – it’s about feeling the full spectrum, owning your individual power and creating a relationship that’s alive again.
Because good isn’t good enough where you’re operating at the highest echelons.
