The sexual chemistry isn’t there – should you separate?
“Our sexual chemistry isn’t really there… and if I’m honest, it never really has been. But so many other parts of the relationship work. I want more sexually, but if that part never changes…should we just separate?”
When a client brings me this question, my role isn’t to tell her what to do (much to the dismay of my unofficial inner Domme who loves to give an order).
My role is to make sure she can see, sense, and feel every pathway available to her.
Because by the time she’s in front of me, she’s already thought about this – a lot.
And that thinking is often what’s keeping her trapped in a false binary: either this or that. Stay or go.
She’s been trying to logic her way to clarity around one of the most emotionally charged decisions of her life…taking the top-down approach – rational, analytical, and desperately trying to funnel herself into one of two roads.
Not realising: There are far more than two.
Top-down is what high performers know intimately. It’s clean. Controlled. Familiar.
But the question of “should we separate” isn’t something you can optimise.
It’s something you have to meet in the raw, unfiltered truth of your body.
So I start by meeting you where you are...and then I expertly lead you out.
From head to body.
Mind to soma.
Top-down to bottom-up.
With absolute precision, attuning to what I psychically sense your erotic truth to be in that moment.
Because none of this can be reduced to pure cognition.
It’s cellular. Subtle. Somatic.
Bottom-up work is what most women in business haven’t been taught – or more importantly, haven’t experienced in a way that’s not just doable, but deeply pleasurable.
It’s where confusion and heartache alchemise into pure currents of power – without requiring you to endlessly “explore your feelings.”
Together, we go straight to the edge and we synthesise:
Your reality. Your desires. Your raw emotions. Your rational mind… and the parts that feel irrational but won’t let go.
So you’re no longer burdened by holding opposing truths in isolation but liberated by integrating them into embodied knowing.
And from that place, the decision – whatever it is, whenever it comes – becomes self-evident.
Here’s how one client put it:
“I got exactly what I wanted from today – I feel massively better about myself and where I’m at.
You have an incredible ability to read me. I’m someone who can handle a lot – physically, emotionally, mentally. I’ve been through things most people couldn’t carry.
But in this situation, I couldn’t rationalise or analyse my way through it. That’s why I didn’t want to work with a traditional counsellor who would say, ‘Tell me about your childhood.’
What you bring is completely different – no holds barred, no limits.
You bring deep sexual awareness, body awareness, clinical clarity, and grounded rationality – all in one.
And that’s what I needed to get clarity on my sex life and relationship.”
This is the kind of power that can’t be rationalised…but will change everything for you.
Reserve your entry into the Power Couple Suite here by securing your first immersion with your partner here.
Lauren xo